Studiekring Vrij Onderzoek, Librex, Polyamory Belgium & Sex-Positive Belgium present!
Lecture ‘Putting the ethics in ethical non-monogamy’
by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert
Whatever your flavour of non-monogamy, chances are, you want to do it ethically. But what does that mean? Most of us know we need to be honest with our partners, but we propose that ethics goes beyond honesty. Ethical treatment of others requires us to recognize and honour our shared humanity. Join us as we discuss the ethical axioms and the Relationship Bill of Rights proposed in our new book More Than Two and explore the themes of consent, agency and integrity in non-monogamous relationships.
Our discussions will be guided by the needs of the participants, but topics covered may include healthy boundary-setting; the differences between boundaries, rules and agreements (and how each can be used to serve the needs of the people in a relationship); avoiding coercion; and what empowerment in relationships looks like.
✣ ✣ ✣ Speaker Bios ✣ ✣ ✣
Franklin Veaux is the co-author of the groundbreaking new book More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, author of the forthcoming book The Game Changer: A Memoir of Disruptive Love, and the author of the top-ranked polyamory site on the Web,morethantwo.com. He is also the creator of Onyx: The Game of Sexual Exploration, maintains the sites xeromag.com and symtoys.com, which include extensive writings about BDSM, publishes erotic fiction under the pen name William Vitelli, and is the co-founder of the publishing company Thorntree Press and the sex toy R&D company Tacit Pleasures.
Franklin started practicing non-monogamy from the moment he started becoming aware that boys and girls are different. He started writing about it in 1998. Over the decades, he’s made just about every mistake it’s possible to make in polyamorous relationships. Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from poor judgment. Today, he has five partners, lives in Portland, Oregon, and spends a great deal of time writing about everything from relationship ethics to transhumanism to computer security.
Eve Rickert is a professional writer, editor and mastermind, and the co-author of the the new book More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory. Until taking time off from life to write the book and go on a book tour, she co-organized a group for poly women in Vancouver, Canada, and she blogs at the More Than Two website. She owns a science communications firm in Vancouver, Canada, called Talk Science to Me, and she is the co-founder of the publishing company Thorntree Press and the smart sex toy R&D company Tacit Pleasures.
Eve has been living poly since 2008, though her poly roots go back much deeper. Her approach to poly has changed radically over the years: from early experiences in high school, to first hearing the word “polyamory” in 1998, to first swingers’ party in 2006, to her current three long-term relationships. And being poly has radically changed her. She’s made a lot of mistakes and learned a lot of hard lessons. She co-wrote More Than Two to share those experiences with anyone who is struggling to maintain ethical multiple relationships with integrity, compassion and courage.
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How much? Free!
Where? Auditorium Qx (will announced soon!), Vrije Universiteit Brussel
When? 19/10 at 19h.
✣ ✣ ✣ Our other events ✣ ✣ ✣
• 19/10: Bookpresentation: ‘More Than Two’ by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert @ RBH, Brussels (https://www.facebook.com/events/152259958452770/)
• 20/10: Bookpresentation: ‘The Game Changer’ by Franklin Veaux @ Boekhandel ‘t Verschil, Antwerpen
• 20/10: Lecture: ‘Abuse in Polyamorous Relationships’ by Eve Rickert @ Ugent